Wednesday, March 24, 2010

forgive yourself and forget

Forgive and Forget
Learning by trial and error.
Stop blaming yourself for your mistakes.

People are always telling me that I should "forgive myself" for past mistakes.
What exactly does that mean and how do I do it?

We learn by trial and error, and the errors are made by us and others. We also learn by imagining experiences ("Gee, I wonder how it would feel to touch that hot stove—probably not too good"). But sometimes we viscerally learn by going ahead and blundering.
People might perceive that you are very harsh and self-critical when you make a mistake. We don't like making mistakes, and that's a good thing. However, we often go overboard and sometimes really get down on ourselves, others, or in the extreme, life in general.

Forgiving yourself means first accepting that you committed an error, but secondly, refusing to condemn yourself totally for having made it.
It is important to admit the gravity of the mistake. The error may be very bad, and admitting it to yourself is the first step toward improving the effects of the error. Forgiving yourself means accepting your human fallibility.

Forgiving yourself, but not the error, might be a good compromise that allows you to keep trying (and learning by error) until you actually improve. Forgiving yourself allows you to forgive others more readily when they err, and to stay positive as you work toward improving and trying new things.

What to do:

Change your philosophy of blaming yourself for making a mistake. Accept your error-proneness. Acknowledge that perfection will not be attained.
Leonardo Da Vinci once noted something like this:
"Life is pretty simple: You try something. Usually it fails. Sometimes it works. If it works well, others quickly copy it. Then you do something else. The trick is to keep trying something else."
pretty like Monalisa??

i am forgiving myself for my past mistakes.
its quite hard to forget but i'll try.
goodbye my mistakes!!


  1. yeah, i should forgive my mistakes too.thanks dear!!

  2. ::hehe:::huhu:::hihi::yeah::jum ampunkan diri kita::

  3. >>chihiro
    = huhu.let bygones, be bygones.